The rose is red, the violet's blue,
The honey's sweet, and so are you.
The power of love
Poor St. Valentine, martyred on 14th February AD 269, won’t have foreseen the world celebrating romance and love on his feast day centuries later.
Of course, there are many different kinds of love to celebrate, but they all have one thing in common – a release of oxytocin known as the love or cuddle hormone. This helps to form the basis of all our bonding and
social interactions and has also been shown to decrease stress and anxiety
levels when released into certain parts of the brain.
Special animal bonds
There’s even more cause to celebrate if we are lucky enough to have animals in our lives. People are often cheered up when they are greeted with enthusiasm by a friendly dog, for example. We’ve shared a special bond with dogs for millennia ever since they figured out it was worth their while sitting by our firesides to gain a bite to eat and keep warm.
Or was it us who invited them to do a few things around the place……. probably a bit of both!
Either way, it has been demonstrated that touch between a human and
a dog can have therapeutic benefits for both species. Petting a dog can trigger the release of oxytocin in both human and dog and reduce cortisol (although you do need to be sure the dog is OK with you doing it). It can also lower heart rate and blood pressure . The Complementary Medical Association recently highlighted the many studies demonstrating that having a pet dog is associated with improved physical health.
They also boost our psychological wellbeing and appear to reduce symptoms of depression and make people more resilient to stress. See here and here.
Dogs seem to sense sadness or dis-ease in their humans and often attempt to make their owners happy by initiating a cuddle. Some dogs are so
good at this, they are specifically trained as therapy pets.
If you are homeless, the deep bond you have with your dog may well be your lifeline. There are several charities which look after the homeless community and their dogs including Dogs on the Streets and Streetvet.
There's a special festival In Nepal called Kukur Tihar which specifically thanks dogs for their loyalty and friendship.
Horses can heal too
Riding and Driving for the Disabled has successfully enriched people's lives with horses and ponies who seem to instinctively know that they need to be careful with their riders or drivers - even with equines who may be, shall we say, "characters" in their day-to-day lives.
There are also many examples of the emotional support given by horses and their amazing contribution to the rehabilitation of people with a variety of conditions such as anxiety, depression, PTSD, various forms of abuse and addiction to drugs and alcohol.
It’s very likely that friendly interaction with other animals will have similar effects.
And when there’s heartbreak….
Of course, this love is all very well, but if our hearts are broken, a cuddle with the dog can be the perfect antidote. The author Dean Koonz summed it up when he said of his dog:
The natural world
Contact with nature and growing things – like roses – is another way of lifting the spirits and improving mental health. As the TV gardener, Monty Don said:
Without wishing to anthropomorphise, there seem to be demonstrations of love throughout the animal kingdom. Valentine’s Day coincides with the early signs of spring and nature has an extraordinary array of courtship unfolding around this time. The first frog spawn appears. Tawny owls hoot to potential mates. Baby badgers are being born underground. Greater spotted woodpeckers start drumming to stake out a territory and attract a partner.
Great crested grebes embark on their mating ballet dance. They puff up their neck plumage and mirror each other with neck bending, diving and gift giving – waterweed rather than roses!
And of course, nature’s palette becomes increasingly varied as flowers add colour to our lives.
We can show our love for wildlife by feeding the birds, making our gardens wildlife-friendly and supporting one of the many wildlife conservation organisations.
Roses – the classic Valentine’s Day symbol
Roses have been the flower of choice for thousands of years when it comes to mesmerising the desired person and bringing the love so desperately longed for. Roses are the symbol of love all over the world; a unique language. But why is this? Apart from the enchantingly sweet smell that lingers around like a gentle veil of love, roses actually have an astonishing effect on the endocrine system - they can reduce adrenaline by up to 30%. How’s that for being wooed!
Cleopatra is known to have used roses and the scent of other flowers like jasmine to scent not just herself and her bed, but also the sails of her barque when processing down the Nile. This would have mingled with the overwhelming smell of roses from thousands of rose petals which were strewn into the water by onlookers. No wonder Rome was a close
In the language of flowers popularised by the Victorians, a gift of red roses epitomises the joy of Valentine’s Day. They look, and often smell, gorgeous and hopefully evoke a feeling of everlasting love and passion when given and received.
Roses can help and heal in other ways too. As well as culinary uses, there are numerous applications for medical, emotional, and behavioural problems for you and your animals. We look at flower and other essences, herbal medicine, aromatherapy and homeopathy in our blog here.